Every person and situation is different, so there is no simple formula to find the way. But if you need help and feel that you cannot do it alone, it often starts with these phases.
Mapping where you are now
Just like when you set out orienteering on an unknown course, you need to start by getting clear on exactly where you are and what you are up against. You need to consider the factors on the ‘Getting back on your feet’ page plus any others applicable to your personal circumstances and then start to map how to move forwards on these, which ones are inter-linked and inter-dependent and therefore what order to take them in (and which ones to simply postpone for the moment, until you are more ready)
Questionnaires and mapping tools can help here, as well as a friendly and supportive ear from someone who does not have any direct vested interest in the choices that you make. I’m just in the process of creating some worksheets for these, so watch this space!
In order to get started, you need to have a plan – and a realistic plan in the context of your physical and mental capabilities at the moment, as well as the support and demands that you have of you. Getting clear on this will allow you to move forward with speed and consistency – just as a well-designed training plan used to do for you as an athlete.
Setting up your plan with good goal-setting and planning approaches can help here.
I have mapped 10 pillars that seem to consistently underpin rehab and recovery across a variety of circumstances. Plus for each of these 10 pillars, 5 stages that you can do practical things to help yourself to progress:
- Managing and reducing Stress
- Having the core toolkit to Survive the challenges
- Ensuring that you can Sustain the basics, without slipping backwards
- Rebuilding Strength and making progress
- Getting to a place where you can Shine again
Measuring progress and replanning
Recovery is never a linear path and requires periodic reassessments and re-planning.
Ensuring that you create specific and measurable milestones in each aspect enables you to do these periodic reassessments (built around 8-week cycles) and recognise when and what you need to replan. This is a harder discipline than it looks at first glance, as it requires you to be kind to yourself but also recognise when things need to be changed up.
Handling the derailments
There are some really tough derailments that can knock you off course.
There are techniques to address almost all of these, but it is likely that you will need a bit of help working them out.
I am not a medical professional and will not give medical advice. These worksheets and tips are more like life coaching – supporting you to work out what decisions you need to make, and to search out the support that you need and find the deep reserves of resilience that sit inside of you, but that you are probably finding hard to access right now.
Every person and situation is unique – and the solutions that you find will be. But there are tools, frameworks and knowledge that can help. Especially since most people find that their ability to make good quality decisions when under pressure, in pain and feeling overwhelmed is severely compromised.
If you are interested in progress here, do get in contact via an email with a little bit of background about your situation and I can share some of the work in progress.